Are You Writing For You?

February 27, 2013


"Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self."
-Cyril Connolly

Do you sometimes feel like your blog posts are inadequate or that they just don't compare to all the other fabulous posts that have been written out there? I admit that somedays I am consumed by this thought and it literally drives me to not writing a post at all because I'd rather write nothing than to write something that isn't interesting. I'm what I like to call a blogfectionist because I seriously could spend hours on a post trying to get it to look absolutely perfect with editing photos and just finding the right words to say. I find this especially to be true when writing a post from the heart or one that is more personal.. it shouldn't be so difficult to write out your feelings, but I am always finding myself at a loss of words. That alone is why somedays I just don't post because I simply don't feel like putting that much thought or effort into finding those words. Over the last year that I have been blogging, I have finally come to terms with the fact that my posts might not be the most popular or most well worded, or even might be of little interest to you because all that really matters when it comes to this blog is that I am writing for myself.

Blogging isn't about impressing others, but I find that so many of us are constantly trying to write content just to be posting every day of the week. We have gotten so caught up in the numbers that we are forgetting to write for ourselves. We are forgetting those little moments that occur on a daily basis because we aren't documenting them as they come. What happened to writing to just write, to inspire, to express, or just simply writing to remember?

It's sometimes necessary to take a step back and start writing for yourself.
Do you write for yourself or are you just writing to make an impression on the blogging community?

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28 COMMENTS

  1. I really needed to read this, thank you so much! :)

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  2. I needed this to inspire me thank you

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  3. I used to try to think about what my readers would like to read... but now I just blog for me! Even the link-ups I do are for me!

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  4. I started out writing for myself and quickly tried to keep up with other bloggers and turned out content that was less than stellar.

    Recently I created a mission statement for my blog to help keep me focused on what I want to write about.

    Of course I hope readers find my content engaging but I figure as long as I'm true to myself and my work is an honest representation of me, I'm good to go =)

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  5. I definitely write for me, but it's hard not to get caught up in what will get people to read and/or engage. I want others to be connected to me and my writing, but I will not stop being true to myself just to get more readers!

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  6. Thank you for the reminder. I'm following you via GFC. I host Fluster Creative Muster Party on Wednesdays and I would love it if you would come by and party with us. Hope to see you there!

    Hugs, Smiles, and Blessings,

    Robin
    Fluster Buster

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  7. I write for myself. People get way too caught up in treating this like a popularity contest. I think we all need to remember that it is a hobby first and foremost.

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  8. I write for myself but for a while there I did feel inadequate compared to other bloggers but I soon perked up and realised why I started to blog to begin with, just for the pure love of it :)

    La Vie, Style et Beaute

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  9. As a barely known blogger intimidated by all the mega-blogs online (they are all mega-blogs to me!) I can relate to this. I certainly have to remind myself often that I write because I enjoy it. Not because I'm going to be Internet famous.

    Keep on writing for yourself. :) Fortunately, a byproduct is that other people obviously appreciate it.

    The Brayn of Chalayn

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  10. This is a great post! I have to remind myself a lot. I usually post for myself and what's on my mind or heart... but it gets difficult when I worry too much about what people would want to read. It feels much better to post what I want to read/write. lol It's good to know I'm not alone!

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  11. I'm sure if you come by my blog and read mine or either watch and listen that my posts are all over the place. Random. There's never any specific thing that's talked about the whole time. Whatever comes to mind is what i end up blogging about. it should come from your heart and that's where mine comes from

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  12. Thanks for this encouragement today! Sometimes I get so caught up in the whirlwind of wanting to engage people, get comments, and be that internet celebrity (which usually produces sub-par content), that I forget why I started writing in the first place!

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  13. Interesting you should post this because I just had a similar conversation with another blogger at dinner about blog content, number of posts, number of visitors, comments, and the like. In the past couple of months, I've diligently tried to "mature" my blog and allow my posts to grow up a little. I'm not posting every single day with nonsense that, let's be honest, it not interesting or fulfilling. I've limited the number of link-ups I participate in and make sure every post has a purpose. My numbers have gone down -- GASP! -- but I think my writing has improved and my little slice of the blogging world has matured. I'm okay with these realities. I'm okay where Three 31 currently stands. #CONTENTMENT

    Hugs and blessings for your day,
    Nicole @ Three 31
    http://nicoleandkevin.wordpress.com/

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  14. This is such a great post! It is way to easy for people to get caught up in numbers, we have to remember WHY we started blogging in the first place. It's that passion that makes people want to read.

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  15. You definitely hit the mark - keep blogging for YOU :)

    Sheree
    The Hartungs Blog
    thehartungs.blogspot.ca

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  16. You have no idea how happy I am I found you on the Harvest blog hop today. I was up late last night feeling uninspired. I started writing a similar blog post to what you just wrote. It is so easy to compare ourselves to others, no matter what we write about, and feel inadequate. Thanks for the reminder that I started this blog over 2 years ago for ME. Yes, I hope to inspire other families to travel with their kids, but it's so much more than that. I didn't want to be a clone of other travel bloggers. I had something to say, and I wanted to say it whether anyone cared or not. Thanks for pushing me past my slump!
    -Keryn @ WalkingOnTravels.com

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  17. Hi Breana,

    Whenever I start this debate in my mind I wind up getting either a comment, email or someone tells me that even though they might never take the time to comment, they actually follow my blog - family members, friends and crafters. And even without this, my blog is a bit of a journal for myself as well.

    I am here via twitter (I'm pbutterflake - or on my blog I'm known as Mrs Miles) So glad I found your blog!

    Blessings,
    Barb

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  18. This is a great post. I definitely write for me but I struggle with the perfectionist part. It's hard for me to post something unless it's perfect and my photos are edited perfectly. But its a standard I hold myself to with everything and a hard but necessary habit to break. :)

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  19. Great post! When I remember to write for myself, I love blogging so much more.

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  20. I'm visiting today from Super Sunday Sync, and I think every blogger will appreciate this post. :)

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  21. We definitely all struggle with this. I write whatever I feel like writing... I don't consider myself inspirational, so that takes a little of the pressure off! ;)

    p.s. Thanks for linking up with us for the Let's Be Friends GFC Hop!! I'm already a follower!

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  22. Hi sweet friend :) This is a great post about a topic that's close to my heart. For me the writting is only fun if it's for fun or stems from a greater purpouse. I want my blog to be a place people come because they not only love me, but because they take away something from what I share. I'm glad we have that in common. Have a wonderful Sunday friend xo!

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  23. It's as if you wrote this post for me. I took a bit of a break from my blog recently and still am feeling a little stuck/uninspired/unworthy (after reading other blogs). From today on, I vow to "write for myself."

    Thanks!!
    BeautyMustsforMoms.Blogspot.com

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  24. Thanks for this - what a good reminder to slow down and enjoy my blog! :)

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  25. This is definitely one of the most important things I've learned through my blogging experience. When I first started blogging, I found myself trying to grow my blog by participating in link-up's, and having new content to post every day. I didn't love a lot of what I was writing, but I felt like I had to keep the posts coming, because that's what the "big bloggers" do. A few months in, I looked back at some of my posts, and realized that I didn't even LIKE most of them. I didn't sound like myself, and I wasn't writing about anything personal to me; I was just trying to impress the blogging community. I started over a few months ago, and I feel SO much better just writing for me! Thanks for sharing this!

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  26. Oh wow, that comment was a mini blog post. I didn't realize how long it was! Sorry! :)

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  27. I write mostly for myself. Of course I keep in mind others are reading but I don't focus on stats or numbers. I write because I want to be a part of a community and because I want to remember important events and thoughts in my life. If I stop loving blogging I will stop doing it. Period.

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  28. " Blogging isn't about impressing others, but I find that so many of us are constantly trying to write content just to be posting every day of the week. We have gotten so caught up in the numbers that we are forgetting to write for ourselves. We are forgetting those little moments that occur on a daily basis because we aren't documenting them as they come. What happened to writing to just write, to inspire, to express, or just simply writing to remember?"

    I'm so glad you posted this. I used to write for myself - didn't ever share my blog (I have since crated a new blog). Then for a while, I started the whole writing for others, trying to find things that would get people to connect. I wore myself out. I am a single Mom, working full-time, with family and community obligations, school, a business and trying to start a new one - I'm not overly crafty nor punctual in my writing. However, since I've gone back to being honest and writing or posting about life, I feel much better about myself. Since starting this new blog in May, it's had almost 4,000 hits - I think that's pretty successful considering I can't dedicate the time to it that I'd like - yet!

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